Dark Room Doors and Dressage

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Picture a Dark Room

Lights out - and you are standing in the center. You cannot see a thing. Your outstretched arms indicate that there is space in front of you. Although you can walk around and grope into the space ahead of you, the darkness prevents you from knowing which way you turn.

During my most intense schooling period, learning to ride was just like being in the Dark Room. There I was, in a bubble of "darkness", which represented the new riding skill I was trying to find. All I could do was grope around, trying to discover the elusive "feel" that I somehow knew was there.

Luckily, as horseback riders, we have instructors guiding us, showing us, describing feel, and giving feedback. So in that Dark Room of Learning to Ride, I did have my instructor pointing me (sometimes literally!) in the right direction.

I remember the first time I found my first "feel".

It was like reaching ahead in the darkness, and discovering a door in front of me. The initial incident was like I'd opened the door and taken a peek inside. The lights were on! I could see!

And then I stepped back abruptly into the darkness. Finding that feel the second time was once again an elusive undertaking. Admittedly, this time, it was easier to find the door. Instead of turning around myself in unknowing circles, I had a better idea of which way to step, and soon enough, there was the door and then the room with the lights on.

And so this was my progress through the learning process of riding. As I learned which way to move, I was able to achieve a feel sooner and easier and one day, with efficiency.

There were more doors to discover!

Then came the second door/skill, the third, the fourth. I realized that there were so many doors - unlimited actually - that I could source out. Interestingly, listening to different instructors opened other doors. As the years progressed, opening the old doors became a simple task, while finding new doors was just as challenging as finding that first so long ago.

Then came the day that I discovered doors behind the doors! Yup, that's right. I'd discovered the layers of learning that resided beyond the initial stages of each skill.

Every movement you learn as a horseback rider has infinite levels of understanding and ability.

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As you become proficient at one skill, you realize that there is ever more to develop. The skills interweave and intermingle. Becoming better in one area suddenly translates into improvement in other areas. Unbeknownst to you, your sitting trot improved while you were working on hind end engagement!

And so it goes. You learn, you realize what you don't know, and you learn some more. The path is long and wide and ever developing.

And THIS is what makes horseback riding such a strong parallel to living itself!

Do you have a similar story about the learning process in riding?

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Just For Fun

Fun and interesting, these articles express the joy that is "horse". Read on to meet some of my own horses.

In Celebration of Canada Day: An au Canada "eh" to our international readers!

HL on The Dressage Radio Show?? Yes! Follow the link to hear me speak about 20 Ways Horse Riding Becomes Life Itself.

Eight Legs Plus Two: A poem.

Super Stoked to Be "Freshly Pressed": An honor from WordPress.

Top 6 Reasons Why Horse Lovers Love the Earth: Caring for and riding horses must be among the most earth-dependent activities left to us (aside from farming and other such activities).

Listening to Hoof Beats: A CD Especially for the Equestrian In You: Rarely do you find a music CD that is dedicated to horses and their people.

100,000 Thank Yous! In celebration for our first 100,000 blog views.

42 Ways to Learn, Play and Grow With Your Horse: Horses give to us in countless ways. We play, learn and grow with them, making horseback riding not merely a sport (which it truly is, like no other), but so much more.

5 Common Horse and Riding Myths: Do you regularly find yourself explaining/educating/justifying/rationalizing/defending your “horse habit”? Then this article is for you!

Luvin' the Reader Love! In my little world, there is only one thing almost as good as listening to horses – and that is reader love!

Ode to the Stretchy Trot: How do I love thee? Let me count the ways.

HL is an ESMA Top Ten Finalist! We were voted in and judged to be worthy of the Top ten Blogs of 2013!

Good Day For A Little Horseplay: Snort, snort, snort, SNORT! My gelding couldn't tell me in any clearer terms how much he was enjoying the moment.

The Roundup: Top 10 Horse Listening Articles of 2012: Highlights of the year and top posts by number of views.

The Night Before Christmas: A heartwarming barn version written by Doris Elradi.

Why the End of the World Didn't Happen - According to My Horse: Although we are a seemingly quiet and complacent herd, we are nevertheless of good wit and sound mind, especially when it comes to the matters of nature.

Horse Treats For Christmas: Bake these horse-approved treats for every equine in your barn!

New! Horse Listening Merchandise Now Available: Check out our new store with exclusive HL merchandise! 

New! Emails From Your Horse! Subscribe here to receive emails With Love, From Your Horse!

Living in Flying Changes: I wrote this short poem after a wonderfully exhilarating night ride.

10 Ways on How NOT to Buy Your Dream Horse! Tongue-in-cheek and just for fun! Helping future horse owners the world over!

Caught: A short piece of horsey fiction.

Announcing: Horse Listening the Column! Another step in the evolution of HL has come to fruition!

Moment of Beauty: Caught in the moment and recognizing it.

One Year Ago... : A first-year blog anniversary wrap-up and thank you.

Olympics On the Mind - A Personal Opinion: My thoughts just before the 2012 Olympics set underway.

14 Reasons to Love Horseback Riding: There must be hundreds of reasons why people enjoy horses and horseback riding. Here are fourteen.

Top 10 Annoying Riding Habits: Enjoy this tongue-in-cheek list coming from the opposite perspective – things NOT to do while riding!

Horseback Riders Do Nothing Anyway! Well, at least, that’s what “they” say. But we know differently, don’t we?

A Song and My Very Own Chestnut Mare: You will find me bristling at the suggestion that chestnut mares are unworthy.

An Ode to Kayla Queen - As She Turns 30: Happy 30th birthday, dear Kayla, the exhilarating horse with a never-ending zest for living!

The Top 8 Perks of Horse Keeping: Here are a few positives that keep us going when everyone else is enjoying their leisure time.

2012 Top 10 New Year's Resolutions for Riding: Welcoming the New Year with some "notes to self"!

How To Have Fun on the Trails in the Middle of Winter: How can you have fun with your favourite equine in the middle of winter? Just head off into the bush, with careful step and controlled feels-like-she’s-gonna-explode-any-second excitement.

Because of Horses: What has changed in your life because of horses?

With Thanks to Hickstead: Hickstead was the little horse that could. In fact, he really could, better than any other horse in the world

A Recipe for Living: If life were a recipe, what would it look like?

Softly Determined - A Poem: I found this one on the Internet long ago, with no indication of the author. However, it has stayed with me, blending intensity with passion, being so eloquent and yet knowledgeable about the “path”.

Starting to Breathe Again: Written before Hickstead's untimely passing, this post described what it felt like to watch his $1 million CN International winning round.

Ask 25 Horse People One Question...: ... and get 25 different answers! What to do with all the opinions out there.

Showing

Showing can be exhilarating and challenging at the same time. The following articles discuss show-related tips and topics.

Five Secrets to Winning at the Horse Show: The fun part about winning is that winning isn't everything!

Top 6 Ways to Ramp It Up For Show Season: Preparing for the show season may not be as easy as it looks. There are many aspects that go into getting to the show ring, and even more that need to be done before you even set your first trailer tires onto the road.

Be Productive With Your Nervous Energy at the Horse Show: The tension that builds in you during the warm-up ride can be very useful if you know what to do with it.

Do You Have the "X Factor" at the Horse Show? Finding your “X Factor” at the show is not an easy feat. So many things must fall together all at the same time.

Is Dressage Judging All That Bad? A personal essay on the pros and cons of dressage judging.

So Ya Think Ya Got Something to Prove? Then don’t go to the show. Seriously.

A Recipe for Living

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You need:

- one warm, gloriously bug-free fall evening

- one soft, almost soothing "fits-like-a-glove" saddle

- one enthusiastic, steady, energetic, perky-eared red-head mare swishing rhythmically through a sweet-smelling smorgasbord of dried, crispy leaves

- one clear and wide path lined with tall trees, glowing brilliantly with hues of yellow, red, orange and green broken by a background of deep blue evening sky

- one almost indistinguishable white-tailed deer - noticed only thanks to chestnut mare's extra-sensory perception - flitting through the trees with nary a sound (how is that possible with all dried foliage on the ground)

- one busy black-bodied squirrel darting zig-zag patterns underfoot in preparation for undoubtedly colder days ahead (shattering the stillness in grizzly-like fashion)

- several mounds of sweet, luscious grass beckoning the red-head mare for a leisurely pause to quietly munch here and there

- an almost full moon gladly preparing to assume the sun's duty by reflecting light on the earth

- one human (body, mind, heart and soul) ready to appreciate it all.

Just mix and enjoy!

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On Enjoying the Path

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I can hear you now – you’re groaning… the path?? How can “the path” be fulfilling?

You might ask: doesn't “the path” translate to tedious repetitions, lack of acknowledgement or recognition, stumbling blocks, frustrations, steps backward more than forward, and all the other associated negativities that occur when something is practiced day-to-day, week-to-week?

What about the glory of the goal, the clear, final call of reaching the destination, the accolades and the photo finish? How about the sense of accomplishment, the personal gain, the reward of achievement?

Well, you’re right of course. Goal setting is paramount in all activities, especially if they are long-term and difficult to complete. Without a sense of where we want to go, there would be no ‘path’ to speak of. And we all require and crave (at some level) for a sense of recognition and a feeling of a job well done.

But in horse riding, the majority of the time is spent on the path itself. The achievement of goals are short and fleeting, maybe because the horse is a living and breathing entity unto himself, and he has opinions, desires and interests that may not match yours! It is well known that there is a horse somewhere, sometime, that will humble every person. I would argue that the lessons learned from those horses might be the most meaningful of all.

Often, those lessons are not technical in nature. Rather, they teach us about our ability to persevere, to be patient, to set aside personal desires and ego, and so many other deep lessons that are essential in developing wholeness of being and strength of character. They develop our very human-ness and sense of place in the world.

And so, the next time you find yourself stuck on an exercise, struggling to achieve your next desire, and falling flat on your face (hopefully not literally) despite all your effort and dedication, try to step back and see the whole picture. What path are you on? Where have you been and where are you now? How does your current place in the (horse) world fit with where you want to be? What can you do to take just one tiny step closer to the end goal?

And remember, as E. Joseph Cossman put it so well, "The best bridge between despair and hope is a good night's sleep." Sleep on it, and go at it again the next day.

And enjoy the path!

"Walker, there is no path, you make the path as you walk." ~Antonio Machado.



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It’s All About Listening….

 

Kayla at 30
Kayla at 30

Some time ago, the term "horse whisperer" came into being,  not necessarily by the horse enthusiasts themselves, but largely by the people outside of the industry. The term claimed its fame thanks to Robert Redford who starred in the movie with the same title, while he posed as a rancher who developed a spine-tingling connection to an otherwise unmanageable horse.

The romantic notion of being able to communicate with horses was propelled into the mainstream media and readily devoured by horse people and others far removed from equi-mania.

Long before the movie came out, and fairly early in my horse career, I had already started taking lessons in 'natural horsemanship'. Not only could my friends and I already do what Robert did in the twinkling twilight (with the mysterious, hovering silhouette of the horse in the background), but we knew there was so much more to communicating.

And it begged the question: if we weren't whispering, what were we in fact doing?

Along my path to becoming a more educated horse person, I learned a common-sense truth that follows me to this very day: the most effective way to whisper to a horse is in fact to LISTEN.

If you're not a horse-person, you'd be amazed at how much horses communicate - to each other and even to humans. If you know how to listen, and how to interpret their body language, you would be an adequate interpreter of these amazing creatures. It's not a secret other-wordly skill. Just be quiet enough and sensitive enough, learn the body language signs, and the world of horses will open up to you in a most organic manner.

So here we are at my first official entry of my blog entitled "Horse Listening". My intention for the blog is not to necessarily convince you that there is only one way to ride a horse. In fact, quite the contrary! In this world of electronic communication, I want to stick to a timeless, ancient source of education: I just want to ramble! In a sense, I want to put forth a proposal, if you will, about a topic that has my attention at the moment.

And then I just want to Listen.

I am hoping to open discussion about many and varied topics related to horses, riding, dressage and ultimately, life. Because if there is anything that the horses have taught me, it is that EVERYTHING about horses has a human parallel and every growth (and setback?) we gain through the horse world can be mirrored in our own lives. And the more we think we know about horses (and life), the more we discover that we in fact know so little. Each can be an ever-learning and developing process, and there's stuff to be learned from everyone....

Feel free to drop a line in the comment box and contribute your thoughts on the subject, if you agree, disagree, or have an experience you'd like to share. Stop in and say hi personally by clicking here. Whether you're into horses or not, this is a blog where you can contribute what you've learned by 'listening'. Looking forward to rambling along this road of life with you!

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Is It Me Or Is It the Horse? What is your opinion on this question?

When Do You Start Riding Your Horse? This question was being posed to me by a very respected and horse-wise mentor one day long ago, early in my riding development.

How To Be An Active Horseback Rider (a.k.a. Riding With Intention): What do you do when your ride isn’t going as planned? How do you respond when your horse scoots out from under you, spooks at the horse-killing object, or flat out ignores you?

Dressage As A Healing Tool: Even at its most basic level (or perhaps, especially at the most basic levels), dressage holds a value to horses of all disciplines.

Hello world!

Horses represent so many things: they are our pets, our recreational friends, our competitive partners, our working companions. What began as a childhood fantasy (literally! - I had read all the horse books I could by the time I was 12 years old, and there were still a few years to wait before I even saw a horse in real life) turned into a 'lifestyle' in my adulthood years. And through the years, the horses did in fact teach me all about 'real'  life: its ups and downs, and the nuances that serve to complete and fulfill desires, expectations, worldviews and so much more....